If your reading this then I’d like to welcome you to the unofficial ‘K-Pop Loner’ club.
Before we start, it’s okay not all aspects of a K-pop loner are bad I’ve found some advantages to it. Yes I identify as K-pop loner. For someone who just go into the Hallyu wave in late 2015 and just went to my first KCON in LA by myself, I noticed some things. With K-Culture getting more popular around the world you’d think you could find people just as obsessed with watching K-Pop vines as you are. Sometimes you do and make awesome connections with people via social media which is awesome but when they are state lines or even an ocean apart its hard to enjoy a fellow K-Poppers company when they’re not physically there with you. There’s only so much ‘OH MY GOSH LOOK AT HIS EVERYTHING’ and ‘HE MAKES ME WANNA UNGHHUGHhhh’ you can interpret in an all caps message. Sometimes you just need that contact with someone but can’t find anyone. Me & you both, here’s five signs you are a K-Pop Loner:
#1: This is you… ALL THE TIME
Not 50% not 87.5% of the time not just Monday through Friday no, 100% EVERYDAY! I know we all do the ‘late night scroll’ where you say your tired check your lock screen to see what time it is and next thing you know you’ve spent the next hour, almost two looking up anything on your K-Pop faves. Well for us loners this is all we have! 24/7 we are with our best friend called laptop and look up more funny vines and re watch the same video for the 55th time laughing by ourselves swearing this joke got funnier than the last time you heard it. This is a K-Loner essential, just you in a comfortable environment with a laptop and endless hours.
#2: The Awkwardness
There’s a reason why we gravitate towards the ‘quiet one’ in our favorite K-Pop group or the member that is always misunderstood by everyone. They are us, we are them, we are one! And it’s even more awkward when you meet new K-Pop fans like yourself who ask a million questions like “Who’s your bias?” and “What do you think about aegyo?” You think you can answer them like a normal human being but you end up saying something like ‘Aegyo is my favorite member of BTS!’ and get this type of reaction:
We don’t know why these words come out of our mouths we just get in panic mode that were talking to a real person and not a screen for once. Please forgive our sins…
#3 An Endless Misunderstanding
This is something I know we all go through as Hallyu fans in general K-Loner or not but it’s extremely more hard for people to understand the music if it’s just you pleading your case. We’ve all done the “Hey look at this video” trick on one or two of our Non-K pop friends or peers who just don’t understand what we are listening to and why we love it so much. But for us K-Pop loners it is almost like breathing in outer space when trying to explain what is so amazing about K-Pop. Most times people see us liking K-Pop as the reason why we have no one else around us to relate to. I’ve even had someone tell me before “well if you didn’t like that Chinese stuff you could find some friends.” At first it gets to you having to repeat your reasoning for loving something that is supposed to make you feel good but after a while I just chalk it up as I don’t need to explain myself to anyone oh well, more BOBBY for me
#4 Squad of ONE!
It’s all about you! This can be a positive aspect of being a loner in this Hallyu wave. High-Touches for the price of one, one more T-shirt left in your size with your bias’ face on it, one platinum KCON tix or catching an item of an idol at the concert, the list is endless of reasons why always going solo is a plus. Usually friendships can be broken over these topics depending on how you handle them but if your always solo you only have to worry about one person and one person only, YOU!
#5 Feel the ‘Feels’ on your own
This has to be (in my opinion) the biggest negative of being a K-Pop Loner… No one to share your feels with. No one around you will understand what it means for teaser images to be released or what a comeback means or watch a MV with you for the 100th time just to see the way your bias slays your entire existence… nothing. You need to talk to yourself out loud just to get a reaction from someone around you just hoping they’ll notice and go ‘what did you say?’ and you can unleash your K-everything on them whether they asked for it or not. Sometimes we just need to show someone else other than ourselves even if that person isn’t listening
Well how about it? Want to join my K-Loner club? Even though I consider myself a loner for now, I still have some people I can talk to and discuss my fan girl moments with. Not ALL moments are lonely just some, it’s up to us to find our happiness and humor in the fact that we are like this. Find somewhere that you feel comfortable and your voice can be heard. Now lets Hug it out my fellow K-Loner!