There are countless online publications, blogs and everything in between on the Internet, making it difficult for some voices to be heard. MACG Magazine is proud to share with you […]
There are countless online publications, blogs and everything in between on the Internet, making it difficult for some voices to be heard. MACG Magazine is proud to share with you thoughts from some of our favorite writers on and off the worldwide web.
We asked 3 questions of several writers from all walks of life: What do you love about being a writer, what is one of your favorite things you’ve created and why, and what is something you wished more readers took into consideration about writing? Here is what they had to say.
Matthew Fray, My Be This Tall To Ride
Sometimes, when reading a book or article (or even listening to a song, or watching a scene play out in film or TV) I read a sentence, or hear a line, or watch a character, and the whole thing just screams That’s just like my life. They nailed it. This is totally me.
We connect in that moment. Whether what we’re reading, hearing or seeing is fact or fiction, it’s capturing real life and maybe helping it make more sense.
If nothing else, it reminds us that we’re not alone.
Whether we’re talking about the way we like to eat Oreo cookies or our sense of fashion, or how we feel when our marriage partner leaves us, the stories people tell can change the world for that one person who — right in that moment — NEEDS to know they’re not the only ones. They need to know there’s hope beyond the pain and that beautiful things lay hidden up ahead just waiting to be found.
Sometimes, I write a story about myself. And somewhere on the other side of the world, someone reads it and they pull intense meaning and purpose from it because of how closely they identify it.
I am — inexplicably; magically — able to help and connect with people through the simple act of punching these keys. What a gift.
It’s poorly written, far from being a shining example of good writing, and uses a tone I would have avoided had I known so many people would read it, but my article She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink is the only thing I’ve ever written that has reached several millions of people. It’s what has brought the most people to connect with the stories I’ve written. It’s a boring answer and violates the spirit of the question, but it remains true.
She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink seems to capture the moment so many married and dating couples experience that I believe ultimately causes the majority of broken homes and break-ups.
There are three reactions: 1. The person who already understands and thinks I’m an idiot for not understanding until after my wife left. 2. The person who thinks I’m an idiot because they disagree with the premise. (They’re doomed to a life of divorce or being single until they come around.) 3. The person who reads it and thinks That’s just like my life. They nailed it. This is totally me.
Sometimes that’s a wife or girlfriend finding their long-sought validation.
I’m not alone, she thinks.
Other times that’s a husband or boyfriend having a light-bulb moment and growing into a man who won’t spend years inadvertently damaging the woman he loves and ultimately losing his marriage or family.
I’m not alone, he thinks.
No matter how badly written that article is, the response since it was published in January 2016 has been priceless.
(I’m going to interpret that sentence as “What is something you wish that more readers took into consideration about YOUR writing?”)
I wish people would take into account that you can’t cover EVERYTHING in 1,000 or even 2,500 words.
Of course, my wife didn’t end our marriage because of dirty dishes. That would be insane. But the idea behind how a dirty dish left by the sink could HURT her while never seeming important enough to me to care about is absolutely why more than half of all relationships fail.
We have an empathy crisis in this world, and it’s not all that hard to understand why, but there are a lot of good people accidentally getting it wrong.
Ironically, readers demonstrate that same lack of empathy with me when they jump to conclusions about things they’ve read without considering there are 600 other articles filling in those blanks.
If it was just my words, it wouldn’t matter. Because I put the most private and painful details of my life on display in an effort to reach others, the cuts run deeper with some of the negative feedback.
But it’s worth it.
The important stuff always is.
Visit Matthew Fray’s website.